Why we must be prepared to help ourselves and others
In the last week, three stories have come out that are great examples of why all that we talk about here is important.
The first disturbing story is about the former NFL player who assaulted his sons mother in front of him. The video shows him throwing her around the room, striking her while she begs him to stop. Sadly you could tell immediately by her reaction, and it was verified later in an interview, that this was not the first time she had been abused.
“It was absolute hell and I know women have gone through worse,” Evans said. “To feel what I felt, I can’t imagine for it to be worse.”
“He has bullied me for so long that at one point, I believed it was my fault,” Evans said. “It’s disturbing and disgusting to see things people have said online about what did I do. I did nothing. I never did anything to deserve something like this — no one could do anything to deserve something like this.
“The physical abuse began in May. I didn’t report it. I was pregnant at the time. I wanted my son’s dad to be there for me and for the birth of his first child. So I forgave him.”
We have probably all known someone who keeps going back and unfortunately far too often they and their children end up paying dearly for it. While we talk about being vigilant here, you can lead a horse to water as the saying goes. You can’t make them leave the abusive relationship but you can offer advice or notify authorities. It’s not a fix to these horrible situations but it’s a start.
What’s almost equally disturbing is the courts (in)actions against the abuser. Extremely low bail and piece of paper that says “Now you be a good boy and don’t go within 1000 ft of the person you beat senseless and don’t you dare carry a gun.” I just found out the judge did not even order electronic monitoring. Don’t be surprised if you hear these peoples names again.
THAT DOESNT CUT IT
Cemeteries are filled with women who had restraining orders against a spouse, a significant other, or a stalker. They are as useless as the paper they are written on and with the video evidence in this case AND his fleeing to another state, there is no reason in the world that he should have walked so easily. I feel for anyone wrapped up in a relationship like this one and we should do what we can to help them. That may mean just being a friend.
The second case was locally and presents a lot of the same circumstances as above. I will just let you read the account from the gofundme page
On the evening of November 2nd my younger sister, BobbiJo Morrison, was shot in the head by the father of her 5 year old son, Dan Duley, when he was returning little Bentlee home to his mommy.
BobbiJo tried to flee out the front door with Bentlee, but Dan caught her in the doorway & shot her in the head, right in front of Bentlee. She was still conscious when she hit the front concrete step outside & Dan attempted to shoot her a second time however, thankfully, the gun jammed. A neighbor heard the gunshot & came to my sister’s aid, staying with her until first responders arrived. Thank the Lord above she survived.
The bullet went in near her left temple and projected back & downward, traveling through her neck, hitting 2 vertebrae & breaking 2 ribs. She has a long road to recovery… not only physically, but mentally & emotionally, as does Bentlee. The doctor said it will most likely take 6-9 months for the nerve damage in her face & neck to heal. At this time it is unknown how long she will need to be off work. The trauma that they have both suffered is unspeakable.
If you would like to help this woman here is a gofundme link
Again in this case I would have to guess that this isn’t the first time violence was threatened or carried out but that’s just speculation on my part. I am not at all second-guessing the victim because I don’t know the details but if you know of a situation that seems to be trending in this direction PLEASE say something to someone. Regret is a terrible feeling
This one I am going to guess everyone has heard about because of it being a senseless mass casualty event that took place in Waukesha.
Once again we have a person who shouldn’t even have been on the streets, who was reportedly involved in a domestic dispute with a knife. ( this is the current story so obviously, the details could change.) The system did NOT protect the public like it was supposed to do and now innocent people are paying the price. Thankfully I am sure there were people exercising situational awareness who saved people and others with medical training that rendered aid on site.
Speaking of rendering aid, if you have some training or supplies in your home and vehicle please seriously think about doing so. You are much more likely to use that training than any other we might talk about here. We will go into that in detail somewhere down the road.
So what do we take away from these three situations?
First of all and most importantly, “Crazy” always finds a way. What I mean by that is you can’t pass legislation that is going to protect the public because if someone is disturbed enough they will go to extreme lengths to satisfy their insanity. So the alternative is being your own security team and watching over others. If you have any doubts about how much of a difference it can make please take a look at this screengrab from the Wisconsin parade.
That’s every parent’s nightmare but thankfully tragedy was avoided and SUV did not strike the innocent child.
Second, is situational awareness. Yes I know I say it constantly but it’s that important. There are almost universally always clues or hints of what may be coming our way. Some are subtle, some obvious while others may happen well in advance or you might have a split send to react.
Lastly, no one has you or the survival of your loved ones in mind more than you do!
In the end, you will react like you train so get to it and please be safe.